Winning and losing in the stock market.

 

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I feel there is a misconception in the investing world that there are winners and losers, but this goes further than just investing it goes into life!

If some one is winning some one is losing, but I just can’t see that.

If I buy one stock off one person, who is happy to sell it to me and I sel

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l it to someone else who is happy to buy it off me, I am being of service, I am not winning or losing. I am just making decisions that work for me.

I am not responsible for other people and their decisions, if they are not happy with it after they buy it off me, that is their decision, but again I haven’t competed with any one, it is a free market. They could of bought it off millions of other people, at millions of other times. So, at that very moment he was happy I am not pulling one over on any one. If some one buys great if not I’m left with my decisions.

Do people lose in the stock market yes 100% they do, but am I in their race? No not at all!!! I am in my own race!!

To explain this further. If I was to come second or even come last in a race with Usain Bolt would I be a winner or loser. Well to me I’d be winning I’d be just happy to get that experience. So, in my world I would be a winner! Or in other words happy!

So, who are we competing with? actually no one. We create a story in our mind that there is a competition because people win and lose in their race, but we are not in their race.

So, what is the competition? or is there one at all? Well I want to improve every day that is the only challenge I have. So, I am only really racing against myself.

So, what does these concepts of winning and losing do for us? what would happen if we dropped the idea of competition altogether and started looking at what is really there. Let’s drop the lenses of winning and losing.

If I make a trade and it does not do what I want it to do, have I lost? Am I a loser? I know if I learn a valuable lesson I become wiser and I’m more able to make better decisions the next time. Do i like it? no, but i am not a loser!

So, do I win by learning? or do I win by my trades making me money? I don’t win anything either way there is nothing to win there are only lessons.

Now what does the stock market look like to you?

The way I look at things now is, how can I grow? Winning comes from insecurity wanting to be better than someone and losing is the same. But who cares? no one else does.

My goal is to become more and more effective. I know if I constantly aim to be more effective I’ll be looking at the market for what it is! an opportunity to grow, mentally, emotionally and financially. If it goes up I win, if it goes down I win, I’m always winning, because my goal has nothing to do with any one else and is focused on what is going to get me the results I want in the long term.

Pain and pleasure are real, winning and losing are not. Yes, I feel pain when I don’t have a great trad but how I make that feel better is by learning. But if I believe in winning and losing trades, I’ll feel like a loser and not learn, that will only go into developing some sort of self-image as a trader.

 

So, by setting our focus on what is effective, we see the world through a completely different lenses, one that works and empowers us!

Where else in life is this relevant to you?

The two things that stop you from having what you want.

If you understand this post, you will see how this is exactly how you got everything in your life. If you understand this post, you will have the keys to everything you want in your future.

Spend time really thinking about this, Spend time really feeling this. Challenge yourself to feel what is really going on in you, because this is it. This is the only thing you will ever do to achieve everything you ever want. Be that enlightenment or billions of dollars!!

The two things that stop you from having what you want.

  1. Lack of clarity,
  2. Emotions.

The one thing that empowers us is our story that enables us to create a flow towards what you want.

If you want to be a millionaire the only thing that is stopping you is lack of clarity. If you knew how to do it you’d be a millionaire already.

Now I am just using millionaire as an example, you could want to be a whale scientist if you want.

Once we decide on anything, (to be a millionaire) a question pops up instantly. Who or what or why or where or when or how. In this case how will I make a million?

These are clarification questions. If you keep asking them you will eventually get what you want.

The clearer we get on what we want the more we believe it can happen. If you

want to be a millionaire and don’t know how that it is going to happen, you feel doubt. But if you go to a millionaire and ask them how they made their millions then it becomes more believable. As you can see the clearer you get the more you believe.

Belief does not come first, Clarity does😊

The only thing that holds you back from achieving what you want is your

emotions. If you have a conflict in you from when you are a child like your parents always saying, “there is never enough money”” money does not grow on trees” and so on this plays in the background. So, if you say I want to be a millionaire and that is exciting this underlying story will pull at your good feelings and undermine your energy.

So, by stepping forward we then find out what is holding us back. The exact thing that is holding us back comes up. So, by stepping forward we get an opportunity to listen to ourselves and create a greater flow of energy. By listening to ourselves we can see what is true and not.

If you are feeling dis-empowered you are always telling a lie. You have overcome everything in your life to this point? How does that feeling feel? Do you feel Empowered or dis-empowered? If you are not feeling good from saying I’ve overcome everything in my life, then you are lying to yourself because you have, so that emotion that is making you feel bad and is obviously not telling the truth.

Now that we are starting to pay more attention to how we feel we can start feeling what is going to move us forward in the most effective way. We do that by the stories we tell ourselves. When we say I can you are always telling the truth and when we say I can’t we are always lying. Someone somewhere has done more or less what you want to do. No one is 100% original. So, if someone has done it you can too. So, by saying I can your energy flows when we say I can’t we feel dis-empowered.

But we must feel what is going on in us at the same time as what we are thinking. Our emotion drive us forward. If you have an issue with self-belief and you feel you can’t saying you can just doesn’t feel right. We must feel our emotion at this point we have to care about them because they are us. they are always looking out for us and caring about us. so, if we try to bulldoze them we are bulldozing ourselves. Once we start listening to our emotions we are loving ourselves. We are also being extremely smart because our emotions give us much more feedback about situations than we can consciously perceived. We have all had the experience of something just not feeling right and us ignoring it. 😊

So, when we create the story in partnership with our feelings we then create flow. This can be a challenge sometimes and we may need to do some emotional digging but this is what is going to give us the most fun and freedom in our life.

When we become more clear externally we become more clear internally and more In-tune with ourselves then we are creating the stories that will empower us to live epic lives.

Got to go a bit deeper!

This week in the Malahide Epic Life group we got to go a bit deeper.

We have all overcome everything in our life. That is the truth. We learn and grow every day. That is the truth. Once you realize that the only thing that is holding you back, is the belief in words not things.

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If you believe in the word failure, you believe failure exists. There have been many things I have not finished, because it got to the point where it wasn’t interesting any more, or just became too much effort. I learned, I didn’t want to put more effort into it.

There is no failure there is pain and there are lessons, but there is no failure. Even if something kills you in the process, you learn, it’s too dangerous, at that point. But you didn’t fail!

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In school and exams, the failure point is 40% that just shows you got 40% right and need to work on the rest. You didn’t actually fail you got 40% right. Even if you only get one right, you got one right and need to work on the rest. You can re-do that test infinitely, until you get all of it right, if you want. Who defines the failure point in some a pass is 80 or 90%? so failure is just a made up thing it changes all the time because it does not exist.

How many times have you felt a failure because something wasn’t perfect. How many times have you seen people happy with less than perfect results?

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So the belief in this word, actually creates a block, and also creates an opportunity for you to diminish your self image, based on this word that does not exist, in the real world.

I am a failure. I had this belief in me. I failed everything at school. It wasn’t until I was in my 30’s that I realized school failed me, not the other way around. I was not a failure, I survived a system, that is literally set up to diminish self-esteem. The teaching system didn’t work for me.
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We are constantly growing and improving, so is everything in the universe is too. That is the truth. There is no end there is no failure. Things don’t work and we learn and grow. Super simple.

You have always been learning and growing. Never ever have you failed.

So the belief in this word / concept is what is holding so many back. We all want things to work out, but having a fear of it not working out, (fear of failure) or fear of not being good enough, blinds you to the reality of who we are. You have grown today, things haven’t worked out for you today, you simply learnt and changed your approach.

Just like driving a car down a wrong road, you simply turned around and went the right way. No failure, just lessons and growth.

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What holds all of us back is the belief in words. Like fear and failure. They simply do not exist. But our story of them does, and you can drop that in a second.

Just like the story of your self-image. You are always growing, that is the truth. All the other stories are BS!! Anything other than I am awesome and I’ve overcome everything in my life, is not true. It is the same for everyone else.empowerment

Improve you language and instantly become more effective internally and externally.

Best regards,

Miller.

Let’s be real!

I want to talk about confidence and happiness. People all over the world are striving for these things, that are made up, mental constructs, that create illusion.

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In other words… words things we believe to be real that are not.

How do you feel when you say I want to be happy? What are you really saying?

How do you feel when you say I
want to be more confident? What are you actually saying?

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Those words cause judgment and disempowerment. The belief in things that are not real causes illusion.

We have all seen people with confidence, we have all experienced happiness, but both of them are not things. They actually do not exist.

Are you confident at making a cup of tea? Are you confident at driving your car? Both of these get a yes. But at what point did you become this thing called confident? I can tell you now, you didn’t ever achieve this thing called confident. You just stopped doubting yourself. You stopped that dialogue in your mind and just stopped thinking about it, you are just being you.

What people see as confidence is just people being themselves, without doubt. But it is not confidence, that word gives the illusion, that something exists and that we need to achieve it to be happy.be you.gif

Whereas, when we do something we enjoy, we want to put effort into it and as a result become better at it.  We automatically become confident and happy as we are doing this real thing.

Those words happy and confident are the result of something, not the result we are aiming for.

The aim of this post is to see how words can blind us, to what is real. I want to be happy is so abstract and vague, that you can not do anything with it. The word confidence causes judgment externally and internally. They are so confident, I am not.

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When we talk about what is real. I enjoy good conversation. You can do something with that. You can go find good conversation.

Those words are so destructive, but well intentioned. I do not want to be happy, or confident! I want to do real things, that give me real experiences and talk about real stuff.

When you talk about real stuff, you become clear, your energy picks up and you start to be happy and confident!empowerment

 

 

 

 

Can you know anything?

The greatest power you will ever develop, is the power of not knowing.

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Knowledge blinds you to what is real, once you know something, you stop seeing it for what it really is and you start seeing it for what you think it is.

If we look at a chair, what is that to a baby? they don’t know the word chair yet, so they see it for what it really is, an infinite possibility. They will climb on it and use it in so many different ways, that we can not even imagine.

But what is a chair to us? well its something to sit on. But what is it really? Well we have all used it as a table at one point, or another, so is it a table?The-Thinke.jpg

What a chair is, is a story. That story is “something to sit on” so through conditioning we end up seeing it through that lens of words and stories, which then restricts us, in how we see it.

But what is it really? Is it metal, wood or even molecules or atoms. Ultimately we get to the point where we call it “energy” but that is still a word. That word is layered on top of it, but that word is not what it is. it is infinite possibilities.

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We could, in two seconds, put that chair on a wall and call it art? like our imagination it is infinite possibilities.

So can you  really know what it is? as far as I can tell, we can not know what it is. We can not know what anything is. Let that sink in.

Where in your life are you sure of things, or where do you believe in things. Are you sure about yourself now? Who are you? What are you? are you your story?not-knowing

They are all stories they are all words and they are all not what the situation or thing really is.

Do you know yourself? are you smart or dumb? is that true? can you know for certain?

This is the magic of not knowing. Once we really, really connect, with the understanding that we can not know anything, then we are free. We are free from the story that we are something, or we should be something. Ultimately we can not be anything, because things do not exist. Things are just words, and they are not what reality really is. They are just words.q_not-knowingunderstanding

Imagine you are not what you think you are, you are not what your life experiences have been and you are not a victim or victor, because they are all stories. You are what experienced them. But you are not them.

It is your choice to attach to those stories or not. to play them or not. you are in charge of that.

if you can not know anything then you are free to create everything. you are free to attach to the stories that empower you and drive you forward. You are now free to be a master of every thing in your world. Because you can now manipulate every story there is.

By not knowing, you now know every-thing.

Have an awesome day.

 

 

Letting go of EGO and Fear

At the Epic life Group.

We spoke about how believing in things, that are not real, causes criticism, and disempowerment. The things that are not real are EGO and Fear. They simply do not exist. Someone invented those words.

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We have a story of who we think we are and we create stories of our future, that either empower us or disempower us. That is the truth.

We can either have a true story about ourselves, which is, i have over come everything in my life up to this point and I can achieve whatever I want in life. Or we can have a disempowering story of ourselves, which is I am not good enough, to do whatever I want.

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Both of them are stories of who we think we are, but they are just stories and we can change them any time we want. Those stories are constantly changing and evolving. This is all true. EGO isn’t, ego is a judgment, that others put on us and we judge ourselves through the belief in it. But it does not exist and the belief in it causes so much disempowerment and judgement against this word that someone invented.

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Where else do we judge ourselves with words that do not exist. We have all met people with confidence, but where did they get it? I have never seen any confidence ever. However I have met plenty of people who doubt themselves. So to the person who doubts themselves, the other person who is just being who they are, with out doubts, gets judged as having this thing that doesn’t exist, confidence.

Fear is always a story, that we imagine, what we don’t want. What may happen, not what will happen. It is always imaginary. So what it is really, is an emotional response, to an imaginary situation.

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We don’t fear our cookers at home, yet all of us have burned our hands, and will do again. Why is that? Basically we are not playing a story of what might happen. So what happens when someone is afraid of flying? Have they ever hurt themselves on a plane? or are they just playing a very vivid story in their mind of what may happen not will?

What do you want to create because you are in charge of your story!

The whole point of this group is to get people talking about real stuff, looking at the truth, of who they are and then creating effective stories, that empower them.

The first night of the Malahide Epic Life Group

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Last night was the first night of the Malahide Epic Life group.

We had a long chat about how the belief in things / labels like good, bad, positive, negative, anxiety, confidence, enlightenment and chair, don’t actually exist. They are just words and believing that they do exist, because other people use them, is actually what causes our problems.

If you imagine a chair in front of you and I ask you what is it really? you would say wood, or metal, or some thing to that effect. If you wanted to be really smart, you would say molecules and atoms, ultimately, energy.

So what is it really? I see it in two parts, it is a form, that we call chair and that word chair has a story attached to it, “a chair is something to sit on” so we operate out of the story. But what is it really? actually I don’t know and that is the two parts, 1 is a word, with a story and 2 is actually I don’t know.i-dont-know

That I don’t know is how a baby sees it. To a baby they do not have the word and the story attached to it, so they climb on it and use it as a something to hold on to, they have infinite use of it. It can be anything. But as soon as they learn, what that word is, they start being restricted by the story.

Like everything we have learned, those stories restrict us if we believe them, if we accept them as fact. Ultimately facts don’t exist, every-thing is just a word, or a story and that belief in those words, create our outcomes.

When we let go of the words / labels, we start seeing the world for what it really is, which is, every atom is infinite possibility, unlimited and ever changing.unlimited-potential-and-infinite-possibility-@-mohitdhaka.com_.jpg

If we call someone a good person, we are judging them. It is not a complement, it is not seeing them for who they really are. We have all been both bad and good, in life. The truth of the situation is, they are just a person.

Do you see how that word, even though well intentioned, is actually an insult, it is an external judgement, it is you saying I think you are good. It is not seeing the whole person.

So the belief that that word good exists, then creates judgement upon others. If that word did not exist, what would you say about other people? You would see them for who they are wholly. You would talk about what they are actually dong, in and of the moment. You would say “I like they way they care for their mother”. Which is real, and automatically a complement. So feel into how now, if I call you a good person, how does that feel? Is it real to you?it-doesnt-exist

There are so many words in the English language, that literally don’t exist and cause judgment based off this non existing thing.words

In the group once we started letting go of these words, We started to let go of judgment of ourselves. You could feel the releases of energy in the room and in the people. How would you feel if people stopped judging you and how would you feel if you stopped judging yourself? Then we started a meditation and a lot of spirits came in to start clearing the energy away.

It was a huge night for all.fun

Super excited to see what happens, as we start to really get going, because this was only the first night. Monster night!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Regards’

Miller.