Winning the game of fitness (and everything else to boot)

Winning the game of fitness (and everything else to boot)

I can promise you this: if you read this full post you will have a new way of looking at the world. But this post isn’t going to be easy for all to read. So ask yourself am I the type of person who lets a few words me? Or are you going to be victorious over this post?

How do you see yourself? I’m fat, I’m ugly, I’m unfit, I’m lazy, I eat too much, I have no will power, I hate life, I hate work I can’t stand myself or I’m fun, I’m out going, I’m fit, I’m full of energy, I’m crazy, I love life, I have fun every day, I eat really healthily, I’m getting healthier and healthier?

Did any of the above statements make you feel anything? If not read them again, if they did, what did they make you feel? Did they make you feel bad, or did they make you feel good? I told you this post may be a challenge. But it’s well worth it.

Did you notice how just these few words have power over you. Just a few words can make you feel bad or good? But they are only words, why are they so powerful?

What words do you say to yourself on a day to day basis? Do they make you feel good or bad? Do you ever listen to yourself? Have a think…………? Do you listen to the news and say to yourself on a day to day basis that the country is fucked, or do you complain about things. Or do you actively say to yourself, I’m great, I’m going to have a great day no matter what?

Have you noticed at this point that words control your emotions? I’m assuming that you have been on a mini rollercoaster of an emotional ride with this post. Why is it that, just a few words make you feel bad or good?

We have established that, what we say to ourselves on a day to day basis makes us feel good or makes us feel bad. Give it a go. What do you say to yourself that makes you feel bad? Have you ever said I’m such an idiot for doing that? What do you say to yourself that makes you feel good? Have you ever said to yourself, gees that was great?

Listen to what you’re saying in your head now. Are you arguing with this post saying this is shit or are you agreeing with it? Have you noticed what you are thinking?

We all talk to our selves all the time, but the vast majority of people don’t notice the actual chatter that is going on. We have an internal dialogue that is going off all the time and it’s just words but those internal words control our outcomes on a day to day basis.

How do you control this chatter I hear you say? How can I take charge of my thoughts? How can I take charge of how I feel? How can I take charge of my life? And what the hell does this post have to do with fitness?

Have you noticed that I’ve been asking a lot of questions?

Have you noticed that I’ve been controlling your thoughts this whole post? Mu-ha ha ha.

Have you noticed that these questions are making you think and listen to what you are saying to yourself?

Are you putting 2 and 2 together now that what we ask ourselves is what controls our thoughts? And our thoughts control our feelings and our feelings control our day?

So ask yourself again what makes me feel bad. Do I moan a lot? What makes me feel good? Do I congratulate myself or other people when they do well?

Do you see how by asking those two different questions, your focus and your outcomes change? One leads to misery and the other leads to a brighter happier you.

So how does this apply to fitness? What questions do you ask yourself around being fit? Is it hard work out, or is it fun, or does it make you feel bad or is it and exciting challenge?

How do you make yourself feel? Do you say I’m too fat to go, or do you say I’m going to be fit and feel great.

How are you going to take charge of your thoughts and take charge of your life?

If you want to get fit what questions will you ask yourself to make you have a good time getting fit.

My one tip to you is that this takes practice. That practice isn’t easy or hard it’s just practice. The more you do it the easier it gets. So write a note to yourself, put it at the end of your bed or where you will see it in the morning and ask yourself. How good will I make myself feel today? How much fitter am I going to be today than I was yesterday?

How are going to become the champion of your day?

Discipline willpower the myth.

I have always struggled with discipline and willpower. However I believe these are myths and they don’t exist. I believe that when see people applying either of these we are just seeing the results of goals and passion. Not a mental resolve that can’t be matched by mere mortals.

From an external point of view we look at someone working, at something, we wouldn’t be keen on doing and say wow, they must have a lot of discipline or willpower to stay late and do that, because it would take us a lot of energy, discipline and willpower to do such a thing.

What I have come to realise is that discipline and will power are the result of passion. When you have goals that you are passionate about, everything falls into place and you know what you have to do, to get to what you want and you generally enjoy the process. You can work late and still have energy to burn, because it’s fun, because you’re working for yourself.

When you don’t have goals you do the bare minimum in your job, because it would be stupid not to. Why would you expend more energy on something you don’t like? It would be crazy.
I’m sure you’re probably still arguing with me in your head and saying that I force myself to go to work every day, I don’t want to go but I have to. Your right it takes a lot of effort to do that and I have felt that feeling myself (too often). But even this is driven by a desire (of sorts).

There are two drivers in life pleasure and pain. We are either moving towards pleasure or away from pain. So when we force ourselves to go to a job we don’t like, we actually desire not to feel the pain of having no money and living on the streets. So this helps us have the discipline to go to work.

Imagine when you have had goals or something to strive for, that you really wanted, was it easy to get up early and stay up late for it, did it occupy your mind all day? You may have even picked up on the feeling of the above statement, because it’s the exact feeling you had before Christmas day. You’re so excited you jump out of bed at 3 in the morning and stay up playing all day. It took no discipline or willpower to do that, you just did it because it was fun.

How i came to this conclusion, is that over the past year I have been working tirelessly on figuring out what am I going to do with my life. I’ve been fortunate to be living at home with my parents and that has allowed me to focus on what I really want to do. I have also been very fortunate that I’ve had a life that was full of passion and to know that it is possible to live that way. I have also been fortunate to know, the life of having to do a job that I can’t stand. So I had a clear picture of what I didn’t want and what I did.
I’ve moved past that life of passion I once had and now I’ve been working on my new direction. But this wasn’t easy and I’m still not 100% clear on it. But it has something to do with this blog.

This is how; this willpower discipline concept came together. I failed everything in school I hated it and barely participated in it. I never did homework and dodged school as much as possible. You could not get me to do the work even if you paid me. As you can imagine I was terrible at English and writing, so much so I had to go back and learn it all over again.

Whereas now years and years later through working through a lot of personal shit I find that I can write 1000 word posts about all this stuff no problem. It is easy, it is fun and it takes no discipline. It’s because I want to do it.

So if you ever find that anything is taking a lot of discipline or willpower to do, it’s actually telling you that you don’t like what you are doing and that you don’t have a goal. You are not in charge of your life. Discipline and will power are just the result of your have to’s in life and not your want to’s

To grow your discipline and willpower, grow your wants and self belief then discipline and willpower will follow.