Got to go a bit deeper!

This week in the Malahide Epic Life group we got to go a bit deeper.

We have all overcome everything in our life. That is the truth. We learn and grow every day. That is the truth. Once you realize that the only thing that is holding you back, is the belief in words not things.

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If you believe in the word failure, you believe failure exists. There have been many things I have not finished, because it got to the point where it wasn’t interesting any more, or just became too much effort. I learned, I didn’t want to put more effort into it.

There is no failure there is pain and there are lessons, but there is no failure. Even if something kills you in the process, you learn, it’s too dangerous, at that point. But you didn’t fail!

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In school and exams, the failure point is 40% that just shows you got 40% right and need to work on the rest. You didn’t actually fail you got 40% right. Even if you only get one right, you got one right and need to work on the rest. You can re-do that test infinitely, until you get all of it right, if you want. Who defines the failure point in some a pass is 80 or 90%? so failure is just a made up thing it changes all the time because it does not exist.

How many times have you felt a failure because something wasn’t perfect. How many times have you seen people happy with less than perfect results?

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So the belief in this word, actually creates a block, and also creates an opportunity for you to diminish your self image, based on this word that does not exist, in the real world.

I am a failure. I had this belief in me. I failed everything at school. It wasn’t until I was in my 30’s that I realized school failed me, not the other way around. I was not a failure, I survived a system, that is literally set up to diminish self-esteem. The teaching system didn’t work for me.
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We are constantly growing and improving, so is everything in the universe is too. That is the truth. There is no end there is no failure. Things don’t work and we learn and grow. Super simple.

You have always been learning and growing. Never ever have you failed.

So the belief in this word / concept is what is holding so many back. We all want things to work out, but having a fear of it not working out, (fear of failure) or fear of not being good enough, blinds you to the reality of who we are. You have grown today, things haven’t worked out for you today, you simply learnt and changed your approach.

Just like driving a car down a wrong road, you simply turned around and went the right way. No failure, just lessons and growth.

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What holds all of us back is the belief in words. Like fear and failure. They simply do not exist. But our story of them does, and you can drop that in a second.

Just like the story of your self-image. You are always growing, that is the truth. All the other stories are BS!! Anything other than I am awesome and I’ve overcome everything in my life, is not true. It is the same for everyone else.empowerment

Improve you language and instantly become more effective internally and externally.

Best regards,

Miller.

Let’s be real!

I want to talk about confidence and happiness. People all over the world are striving for these things, that are made up, mental constructs, that create illusion.

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In other words… words things we believe to be real that are not.

How do you feel when you say I want to be happy? What are you really saying?

How do you feel when you say I
want to be more confident? What are you actually saying?

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Those words cause judgment and disempowerment. The belief in things that are not real causes illusion.

We have all seen people with confidence, we have all experienced happiness, but both of them are not things. They actually do not exist.

Are you confident at making a cup of tea? Are you confident at driving your car? Both of these get a yes. But at what point did you become this thing called confident? I can tell you now, you didn’t ever achieve this thing called confident. You just stopped doubting yourself. You stopped that dialogue in your mind and just stopped thinking about it, you are just being you.

What people see as confidence is just people being themselves, without doubt. But it is not confidence, that word gives the illusion, that something exists and that we need to achieve it to be happy.be you.gif

Whereas, when we do something we enjoy, we want to put effort into it and as a result become better at it.  We automatically become confident and happy as we are doing this real thing.

Those words happy and confident are the result of something, not the result we are aiming for.

The aim of this post is to see how words can blind us, to what is real. I want to be happy is so abstract and vague, that you can not do anything with it. The word confidence causes judgment externally and internally. They are so confident, I am not.

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When we talk about what is real. I enjoy good conversation. You can do something with that. You can go find good conversation.

Those words are so destructive, but well intentioned. I do not want to be happy, or confident! I want to do real things, that give me real experiences and talk about real stuff.

When you talk about real stuff, you become clear, your energy picks up and you start to be happy and confident!empowerment

 

 

 

 

Can you know anything?

The greatest power you will ever develop, is the power of not knowing.

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Knowledge blinds you to what is real, once you know something, you stop seeing it for what it really is and you start seeing it for what you think it is.

If we look at a chair, what is that to a baby? they don’t know the word chair yet, so they see it for what it really is, an infinite possibility. They will climb on it and use it in so many different ways, that we can not even imagine.

But what is a chair to us? well its something to sit on. But what is it really? Well we have all used it as a table at one point, or another, so is it a table?The-Thinke.jpg

What a chair is, is a story. That story is “something to sit on” so through conditioning we end up seeing it through that lens of words and stories, which then restricts us, in how we see it.

But what is it really? Is it metal, wood or even molecules or atoms. Ultimately we get to the point where we call it “energy” but that is still a word. That word is layered on top of it, but that word is not what it is. it is infinite possibilities.

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We could, in two seconds, put that chair on a wall and call it art? like our imagination it is infinite possibilities.

So can you  really know what it is? as far as I can tell, we can not know what it is. We can not know what anything is. Let that sink in.

Where in your life are you sure of things, or where do you believe in things. Are you sure about yourself now? Who are you? What are you? are you your story?not-knowing

They are all stories they are all words and they are all not what the situation or thing really is.

Do you know yourself? are you smart or dumb? is that true? can you know for certain?

This is the magic of not knowing. Once we really, really connect, with the understanding that we can not know anything, then we are free. We are free from the story that we are something, or we should be something. Ultimately we can not be anything, because things do not exist. Things are just words, and they are not what reality really is. They are just words.q_not-knowingunderstanding

Imagine you are not what you think you are, you are not what your life experiences have been and you are not a victim or victor, because they are all stories. You are what experienced them. But you are not them.

It is your choice to attach to those stories or not. to play them or not. you are in charge of that.

if you can not know anything then you are free to create everything. you are free to attach to the stories that empower you and drive you forward. You are now free to be a master of every thing in your world. Because you can now manipulate every story there is.

By not knowing, you now know every-thing.

Have an awesome day.

 

 

Letting go of EGO and Fear

At the Epic life Group.

We spoke about how believing in things, that are not real, causes criticism, and disempowerment. The things that are not real are EGO and Fear. They simply do not exist. Someone invented those words.

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We have a story of who we think we are and we create stories of our future, that either empower us or disempower us. That is the truth.

We can either have a true story about ourselves, which is, i have over come everything in my life up to this point and I can achieve whatever I want in life. Or we can have a disempowering story of ourselves, which is I am not good enough, to do whatever I want.

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Both of them are stories of who we think we are, but they are just stories and we can change them any time we want. Those stories are constantly changing and evolving. This is all true. EGO isn’t, ego is a judgment, that others put on us and we judge ourselves through the belief in it. But it does not exist and the belief in it causes so much disempowerment and judgement against this word that someone invented.

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Where else do we judge ourselves with words that do not exist. We have all met people with confidence, but where did they get it? I have never seen any confidence ever. However I have met plenty of people who doubt themselves. So to the person who doubts themselves, the other person who is just being who they are, with out doubts, gets judged as having this thing that doesn’t exist, confidence.

Fear is always a story, that we imagine, what we don’t want. What may happen, not what will happen. It is always imaginary. So what it is really, is an emotional response, to an imaginary situation.

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We don’t fear our cookers at home, yet all of us have burned our hands, and will do again. Why is that? Basically we are not playing a story of what might happen. So what happens when someone is afraid of flying? Have they ever hurt themselves on a plane? or are they just playing a very vivid story in their mind of what may happen not will?

What do you want to create because you are in charge of your story!

The whole point of this group is to get people talking about real stuff, looking at the truth, of who they are and then creating effective stories, that empower them.

The first night of the Malahide Epic Life Group

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Last night was the first night of the Malahide Epic Life group.

We had a long chat about how the belief in things / labels like good, bad, positive, negative, anxiety, confidence, enlightenment and chair, don’t actually exist. They are just words and believing that they do exist, because other people use them, is actually what causes our problems.

If you imagine a chair in front of you and I ask you what is it really? you would say wood, or metal, or some thing to that effect. If you wanted to be really smart, you would say molecules and atoms, ultimately, energy.

So what is it really? I see it in two parts, it is a form, that we call chair and that word chair has a story attached to it, “a chair is something to sit on” so we operate out of the story. But what is it really? actually I don’t know and that is the two parts, 1 is a word, with a story and 2 is actually I don’t know.i-dont-know

That I don’t know is how a baby sees it. To a baby they do not have the word and the story attached to it, so they climb on it and use it as a something to hold on to, they have infinite use of it. It can be anything. But as soon as they learn, what that word is, they start being restricted by the story.

Like everything we have learned, those stories restrict us if we believe them, if we accept them as fact. Ultimately facts don’t exist, every-thing is just a word, or a story and that belief in those words, create our outcomes.

When we let go of the words / labels, we start seeing the world for what it really is, which is, every atom is infinite possibility, unlimited and ever changing.unlimited-potential-and-infinite-possibility-@-mohitdhaka.com_.jpg

If we call someone a good person, we are judging them. It is not a complement, it is not seeing them for who they really are. We have all been both bad and good, in life. The truth of the situation is, they are just a person.

Do you see how that word, even though well intentioned, is actually an insult, it is an external judgement, it is you saying I think you are good. It is not seeing the whole person.

So the belief that that word good exists, then creates judgement upon others. If that word did not exist, what would you say about other people? You would see them for who they are wholly. You would talk about what they are actually dong, in and of the moment. You would say “I like they way they care for their mother”. Which is real, and automatically a complement. So feel into how now, if I call you a good person, how does that feel? Is it real to you?it-doesnt-exist

There are so many words in the English language, that literally don’t exist and cause judgment based off this non existing thing.words

In the group once we started letting go of these words, We started to let go of judgment of ourselves. You could feel the releases of energy in the room and in the people. How would you feel if people stopped judging you and how would you feel if you stopped judging yourself? Then we started a meditation and a lot of spirits came in to start clearing the energy away.

It was a huge night for all.fun

Super excited to see what happens, as we start to really get going, because this was only the first night. Monster night!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Regards’

Miller.

 

 

Are you a genius?

Albert_Einstein_Head.jpgI used to love Einstein’s quote “everyone is a genius, but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its life thinking it’s stupid”
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However now I don’t see it that way at all.

I’ve been called genius a few times now in my life and I’ve never liked it. Because I’m not, no one is, it was a well-intentioned statement, but it’s a judgment, by one person on another.

I did an IQ test and I can tell you according to that, I’m not a genius.

As the quote above says “judge a fish” what happens if we judge others by this word genius?Alienation.jpg

I know when my teacher called me a genius, it caused separation between me and my other class mates, while patting me on the back, it insulted them. It said you are not!

The really painful thing is, that it made all my hard work void and made it look like to the rest of the group, that its some natural ability that I had.

I failed school I did not pass my leaving cert (high school), everything I have today has come by putting massive effort in.

What would have happened if the teacher acknowledged my hard work? What would have happened for the rest of the people in the class room?

Even though this word was well intentioned, it had the exact opposite effect upon me. I know her intention was to boost my self-esteem, at the time, but because of that careless use of a very common word, she caused exactly the opposite effect. She increased alienation upon me, further increasing my insecurities, at the time.

I now fully believe that genius does not exist and it is a judgement, that causes separation between people, with different skill sets and is ultimately an insult, detracting from the work the person really put in.it doesn't exist.jpg

How would you like to be labelled stupid or ADHD are these judgments true? I know I had both of these, on me, at one time too.

We are ever changing growing beings. When I was in school, I was stupid, based on schools judgment system and when I was in college doing something I was interested in, I was a genius, based on their judgment systems.

The truth is, I’m just me, I’m good at what I’m interested in, that I put effort into and I’m not at the other stuff.

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You are the same.

I see us all as creators, you are the creator of your life, you choose where to invest your time. Who am I to judge, I don’t know you and any system that deems people anything, is always their opinion, not what reality really is.

The truth is, you don’t know what you are capable of, so how can they? Simply because we change every day.

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We grow, so we cant be judged, by any standards.

We are only limited by the stories we tell ourselves.

Best regards’

Miller.

 

Part 3 Navigating our way through life.

There are two flows to life towards and away.

If you think about it, if you see a friendly dog, you go and pet him, you move towards him, and an unfriendly dog you pull away.

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If you are really present with yourself, stand on your heals, feel them connected to the floor, feel the balance point between forwards and back. Then say “yes yes yes” out loud and let your body go whatever direction it wants. Then say “no no no” and see where it leads your body.

For most people when they say yes, they move forward, and when they say no, they pull back.

That is a visceral experiment, to show how our language is a gate way to our energy.

Where our attention goes, our energy flows and results show. But what is attention?

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In the previous posts, we said, we experience the world through stories. The story of what a chair, is our experience of what a chair is, and also ourselves. That is literally who we think we are, is a story, I am this, or i am that. But to be honest we don’t actually really know what any of it is.

By changing these stories we either move towards life, or away from it, that is dangerous or that is fun.

“Change your story change your life”… Me

Our words take charge of our focus / our attention. Have a look around the room and say “no red” “no red” “no red” what do you see? More than likely the one tiny bit of red in the room, on a book, or in some obscure place. But most importantly you think of the color. the word takes charge of our focus.

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How about “no orange”? black ? White? test this while looking at the picture.

Did you notice that even though you said “NO! red” that you still got red.

So what happens if you talk about what you don’t want??? Are you going to find it? What would happen if you started talking about what you do want?

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Our words control our focus / attention, you are either talking about what you do want, or what you don’t, but either way you are going to get it.

So if you talk about what you don’t want, all the time, do you feel more or less enthusiastic? What would happen to your energy, would it go up or down? Would you get depressed?

Our words create our reality. If you talk about what you don’t want, you will have a shit reality. What happens if you gossip?

Now lets really work on ourselves. Imagine someone who doesn’t love themselves.This would be a  very common belief. But these people go to psychotherapists, and read blog posts, because they are feeling pain. Well if they din’t love themselves why would they be doing all this work? Would they be reading articles on personal development if they didn’t believe that they deserved better? If you believe you deserve better, that is saying i love myself, this situation is not good enough for me. I deserve to be happy and as a result they work for it.

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So for those people they are carrying a story, that is imaginary, that is creating conflict in their reality. But the truth is they actually love themselves, and just think they don’t (basically play that story over and over, blinding themselves to the truth)

So by listening to and changing our stories, we become more aware of what is going on inside of ourselves.

Then we can catch those assumptions and let them go. We don’t need to resolve anything we need to see the truth in ourselves and the world around us.

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The world around us and what we are, is just imagination, words and energy. Our imagination (awareness) creates an interactive story, and then we can either put energy into it or let it go.

The more we put energy into the story the more real it becomes to us.

But it is just a story.

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As I said at the beginning. There are two flows to life, towards and away, we are in charge of those flows by the stories (spells) we tell.

What stories are you telling about yourself? What would happen if you started to tell the truth about yourself? I am an ever growing improving person? I’m working on myself every day and constantly improving?i-love-myself

How does even reading those statements feel? True?

Do you feel slightly better? Do you feel more energy? Who created that?

Our stories are our gateways to more or less energy. Talk about fun projects and you will be energized and tell the truth about yourself and you will become grounded, and more powerful.

Now we can create who and what we want by the stories we tell ourselves, you and the universe will fall in line behind those stories.

I am going to eat some chocolate later 🙂

Have an epic day.

Part 1.